2026-07-29

It's Out Of My Hands

I've had to make decisions and take actions recently that have been less than pleasant. Lots of worry, thought, and option-weighing.

After seeing one of those decisions through today, I have a much greater sense of relief and calm. It's not over yet, but I've done what I can. (It helps, too, that the people involved in this particular step were incredibly kind.)

The sudden calm took me by surprise. I realized it's out of my hands, there's nothing more I can do at this point.

I can't find the exact source for it, but I need to remember this concept more often: Worrying about something beyond what is needed to make a decision will not change the outcome. It will only cause the time in between to become less pleasant. I can take control of my own mind and intentionally choose to redirect my inner experience.

It's reminded me to rewatch some of Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche's videos^1,2 to remember and practice how to find inner peace and calm. Movement and mindfulness are the antidotes to rumination

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